I’ve been playing Mommy for the past week while my wife is playing Mommy for her best friend’s kids, and let me tell you, Motherhood’s not for sissies. Anyone that thinks being a mom is easy, has never been a mom or walked in mom’s shoes, that’s for sure. It’s not an easy gig, and that’s why sissies can’t be moms.
My wife is the best and strongest they come. And this past week, she’s taken a break from being mom to my children so she can be mom to her best friend’s. Their oldest son has fought a battle with cancer and won. But he had to have a very large tumor removed this week, so my wife answered the call. While they had surgery and he’s recovering, my wife is taking care of all the other kids. Definitely not a vacation to see her best friend.
So while my beautiful wife is away, I have been playing Mommy to my own kids. And here are some of the things (only some) I’ve observed and why I don’t think sissies could be mommies.
First and foremost, when you’re a mom, everything else comes first before you. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t showered for three days, when a child needs something, you attend to it. Why? Because you soon realize that it takes far less energy to deal with it right away than it does to put it off for even a minute. In the world of kids, things are exponential. Boy have I learned that.
When I come home from my day job, it’s easy for me to say “Just a minute” to my kids, and honestly, I never see the difference. That’s just the normal way it is. But since I’ve been home all the time, I can see it. Call it my Mom Goggles. But I can see it now. Just taking care if it right away is so much easier, and guess what. The kids actually appreciate it.
Second, there’s always something to do, always something that is waiting to be done. You can’t really take a break. If you sit down to just take a minute for yourself, there’s really no rest in it because you’re always thinking about all the things you still need to accomplish. When you go to bed, it’s not to get some sleep. It’s to re-energize the batteries so you have enough for the next day. You don’t feel like the day was accomplished because you go to bed thinking about all the things that still didn’t get done. You just do it because that’s what moms do.
And finally, I’ve learned why moms love their kids so much and why kids love their moms so much. When you serve someone so selflessly, you can’t help but love them. It’s impossible not to grow deeper and deeper in love with these beautiful souls. They fight, they scream, they cry, they make messes, but they love and smile and dream. Their kisses taste sweeter and their hugs are warmer. They appreciate everything you do for them, even if they don’t or can’t say it. You just know. You see it in their faces.
Motherhood’s not for sissies, but after getting to play Mommy all week, I’d do it in a heartbeat. If I could convince my wife to give it up and let me stay home, there’d be no way I’d pass it up. It’s so fulfilling, so amazing, so wonderful. There really aren’t words sufficient to describe how truly phenomenal being a mom really is.
To the moms out there all over the world, even those who can’t have children but are moms just the same, you’re my heroes. You inspire me, you amaze me, and you touch my heart deeply. Words cannot express the respect and admiration I have for you. To my dear sweet wife, the mother of my children, to my mom and my grandmas, I love you all with all my heart. Thank you for everything you’ve done for me and do for me and will do for me (because I know you’ll never stop, no matter what, no matter when, no matter why). Happy Mother’s Day! You deserve more than just one holiday.
(image courtesy of Erik Kastner, flickr.com)